What Happens When You Heal Your Trauma and Emotional Wounds

For many years I struggled with self-doubts, fear, and with the belief that I wasn’t good enough. I believed that I was a failure, I couldn’t succeed and no one would ever love me or even be my friend.

For many years I struggled with self-doubts, fear, and with the belief that I wasn’t good enough. I believed that I was a failure, I couldn’t succeed and no one would ever love me or even be my friend.

As a result, when I started my business, I struggled for many years and could not understand why I was struggling when other coaches and service providers were succeeding in the same niche I was in. I kept repeating the same old negative patterns and I could not understand why.
I had a big dream just like they did.
I wanted it just as bad as they wanted it.
I was doing the work, just like they were putting in the work.
But at the end of the day, they were cashing the big checks and I was earning pennies.

At that time I would take 2 steps forward, but then 3 steps backward. I would start seeing some level of success, and in few months I was right back where I was a few months before.

In my personal life I was also struggling. Bad relationships. Always getting into debts. Insecurities and the list goes on. I just couldn’t get ahead in life and in business. I couldn’t break the cycle of struggle.

I mean, aren’t I a good person?
I am a good Christian, right? I prayed every day (sure sometimes I fell asleep without praying, but who is not guilty of that?)

I would see people getting ahead in business (hitting those 10k months) as if 10k were giving out on a street corner somewhere and I wasn’t invited to the party.

They were getting ahead in life, getting married, doing things I wanted to do.
But for me, it felt as if I was destined to live a life of struggle.
I kept attracting bad clients.
I kept getting in toxic situations and attracting the wrong people into my life, people that fueled my dysfunction.
I felt as if I was on a hamster wheel in my business and I didn’t know how to get off.
I read the books.
I watched like a thousand videos (well it was more like 9455243)
I repeated 273838 affirmations and tried visualizations.

But I sank deeper into despair. The more I tried to succeed, the more I experienced distrust and the more I got disconnected from my true self.

Do you know how it feels to have a dream and that dream keeps moving away from you the closer you get to it?

What I didn’t realize at the time that my struggle was a result of deep deep emotional wounds that I wasn’t addressing, and as a result, I was sabotaging my success.

For example, I experience anxiety when asking for money; unconsciously I would search out for clients who I knew wasn’t a good fit for me.

As long as these wounds existed, the affirmations, the visualizations, the books, the videos, the number of business coaches I hired wasn’t helping.

Emotional wounds like I Am Not Good Enough; I Am Unloved or I Didn’t Deserve To Be Love; I Am Bad or I Am The Cause of…

And so with the help of God and coaches, I was able to get to the root cause of my struggle. I realized I didn’t have a business problem, I had a personal problem and when I fix my personal problem then the business would start growing.

Childhood Trauma

All of us have experienced some kind of childhood trauma or trauma in later life (for example an ex who constantly told you that you weren’t good enough)

And these experiences left an imprint on our psyche that is running our lives right now.

These create what we call core emotional wounds.

𝐂𝐨𝐫𝐞 𝐰𝐨𝐮𝐧𝐝𝐬 is the core emotional stories that you’ve come to identify with as a part of your personality or a part of your subconscious belief system about who you are.

So how can you identify your emotional wound? Look at your story. Whatever story you have told repeating about yourself, that is the core wound that you need to heal.

These stories come about due to painful interpretations of experiences that we couldn’t make sense of, or process properly at the time, and so we came up with our own interpretation of what different events meant. This meaning is what we stored in our minds so we can protect ourselves from running into that situation again.

For example, if you had a very critical parent who you look up to and he or she is always criticizing you, you are going to give it meaning and you might make your parent’s criticism mean ‘I am not good enough’, or ‘I am bad’.

You are going to feel as if something is wrong with me or I must not be good enough why he or she is always reprimanding or criticizing me.

𝐒𝐨 𝐲𝐨𝐮 𝐰𝐚𝐧𝐭 𝐭𝐨 𝐤𝐧𝐨𝐰 𝐰𝐡𝐲:

  • You are consistently attracting bad clients?
  • Struggling with impostor syndrome and negative self-talk?
  • Feeling guilty and experience anxiety when it comes to money conversation?
  • Struggling to show up in your business through your content and Facebook Lives?
  • You fear rejection, success, or failure
  • You can’t seem to get ahead in life but repeating the cycle of struggle

And let’s make it a little personal:

  • You keep getting involved in relationships with the wrong partners?

It is because there is a 𝗰𝗼𝗿𝗲 𝗲𝗺𝗼𝘁𝗶𝗼𝗻𝗮𝗹 𝘄𝗼𝘂𝗻𝗱 that you need to break up with.

You don’t have a business or relationship problem, you have a personal problem.

When you heal your childhood trauma and emotional wounds, you will begin to attract the love, money, and abundance you want because there won’t be any internal resistance to you achieving your big goals.  Healing from childhood wounds is needed for you to achieve the goals and dreams you have.

I would love to support you to heal your core wounds so you can attract the money, love, and life you deserve. Send me a quick message on Facebook that you are interested in this program and we will get on a call together to talk about it.